Wedding Guest List Protocol
Traditionally the
bride's family pays for the wedding. Both the bride and
groom's family will make a list with the names and addresses on all
those to whom they would like send a wedding invitation, and they will
go through the list with the bride and groom themselves to check
over.
Each of the two families
will send their own invitations, which should always include the home address of the
bride and groom, or of the parents as a return address for the
replies. If this is their first daughter to marry, often they
have more commitments at the time of sending the invitations than the
family of the groom. In this situation, protocol dictates
that the family of the groom, no matter what their degree of social
standing, should not have a guest list which outnumbers the bride's
family's guest list. Increasingly these days it is common for the cost
of the wedding to be split equally between the two families however,
and even the bride and groom will often chip in toward a considerable
proportion of the costs.
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Wedding
Gift Giving Etiquette
When a single
joint invitation has been sent to parents and children, the unmarried
children are not expected to give a gift, provided their parents send
their own gift on all of their behalf.
As a rule, when it comes
to a wedding, it is usually
correct etiquette
for exaggerated or disproportionate gifts not to be returned. With
gifts that may seem very excessive to us as a wedding present, the amount of
generosity of the giver is usually understood.
The wedding gift
should never be brought by the guest to the church or the
celebration banquet afterwards, as it would be inopportune for
the bride and groom and their closest relatives to receive it
there and then, open it, give thanks and to carry it with them.
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